What to Talk About with a Girl – Seven Conversational Attraction Tips from the Pros
Technique #1. The Anti-Creep Factor.
Of course, if you know fractionation (see the guide above) then you’ll be able to break down her initial defense when you approach her. I don’t recommend this all the time, but some slight hypnosis will greatly help any guy especially when the girl has got anti-creep defense on.
Now if you don’t know fractionation, then it would be best to always just be friendly when approaching a girl. Not only will you end up looking trustworthy in their eyes this way, but you will also prove to them that you have nothing to hide from them.
This will, in turn, make girls more willing to open up and share intimate details with you in the long run opposed to if you approached them in a flirty (read: creepy) manner.
Technique #2. Light As The Wind.
Now you’re able to approach the girl of your dreams (using fractionation or otherwise), then it’s time to strike up a meaningful conversation with her. You should come prepared and have a laundry list of “light topics” to talk about which should suit any occasion and situation.
- Location-specific topics
- Seasonal topics
- Opinion / advice solicitation
- Cold reading / esoteric (advanced)
- Fractionation – often coupled with soft hypnosis (advanced)
While it is important to keep your conversations light, you also have to make it a point to stay on point at all times. All that this means is that you have to make sure that you keep keeping the conversations going and don’t let random unexpected lulls ruin it.
Advanced conversational seducers will use “multiple conversational stacks” and introduce some mild hypnosis (see Derek Rake’s October Man Sequence) in order to keep the girl enthralled.
To do this, keep your tone fun and light and always look around for things that you can bring up and talk about. This way, you won’t just keep coming up with new things to talk about, but you will also be able to get the girl’s mind off of other things completely. This would definitely be a huge plus if she wasn’t in the best of moods to begin with.
Of course, a good sense of humor will help, too – but don’t overdo it. We have often found that humor can be a seduction killer. You want the girl to laugh WITH you, not AT you. Big difference!
Technique #3. Empathy.
A lot of guys tend to listen to girls with their ears full, but you really have to listen to a girl if you want to win her over eventually. A girl is sure to grant you brownie points if she can see that you can talk and listen to her with ease. The best part is that you will become a better listener, in general, once you master this particular skill.
Technique #4. The Laser Beam.
This is related to the Empathy technique above. You see, girls won’t like it if they share their deepest thoughts with you and you respond in a completely unrelated way afterwards. So, make sure you focus on her words, save yourself the humiliation and be deemed as an awesome guy in the end.
Girls happen to love guys who can focus on them and can really keep up with what they have to say. Don’t get scatter-brained!